Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Patricia Callahan 1961 - 2010

Patricia Louise Callahan, age 49, died peacefully at home in Oakland among family members on December 2, 2010, after a short but valiant struggle with brain cancer.

Born September 27, 1961, Trisha is survived by her devoted parents, Jim and Margaret Callahan, and her seven siblings: Claire and her husband Bob Goodman of Orinda, Kathleen and her husband Andreas Neyer of Piedmont, James of Oakland, John and his wife Nancy of Oakland, Michael and his fiancée Elizabeth Peele of Berkeley, Mary Ellen and her partner Walter Schretzman of New York City and Matthew and his wife Rhys Cheung of Fremont. She is also survived and beloved by nieces Rebekah Goodman, Sarah Callahan Stanley and Aoibheann Cheung Callahan, nephews Christoph Neyer and Joey Callahan, uncle Tom Bendorf of South Dakota and aunt Patricia Carroll of Philadelphia, cousins Heidi Bendorf and Sally MacLaughlin and 18 other first cousins. She was predeceased by her aunt Sister Martha Bendorf, SNJM, in 2009.

She is also missed by the many, many friends she left behind, including those who, in addition to her family members, helped care for her in the past months: Kelly Lockwood, Allison Boles, K.T. Gardner, Jim Stanton, Sarah Cane, Leah Reitz, Ann Holt, Caryn Combis and Linda Brooks.

Patricia grew up in Piedmont and attended Beach Elementary and Piedmont High School, graduating in 1979. She obtained an undergraduate degree in German from San Francisco State, a master’s degree in German Linguistics from the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, a master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica and, at the time of the onset of her illness, had almost completed her third master’s degree in Music Education at Holy Names University and California State University East Bay.

During her lifetime Trisha visited many points around the globe. In her early years she spent time living in Malmö, Sweden, London, England and Austin, Texas. She worked as a translator and textbook writer, as an arts manager, a business analyst and a massage therapist, but in the last four years settled into steady and happy employment as a piano technician at Callahan Piano Service in Alameda, where she will be greatly missed by her beloved co-workers. She recently starred in the movie “Miracle in a Box” (miracleinabox.com).

Trisha, a marvelous and very refined musician, performed throughout her life with numerous choral groups, including the Oakland Children’s Chorus, the Oakland Youth Chorus, the California Bach Society, Coro Hispano, the San Francisco Bay Area Chamber Choir and the Malmö Kammer Kor in Sweden. She also played the oboe and the clarinet.

Trisha was a proficient unicyclist and juggler, a skilled improviser, a gifted comic and an unforgettable character. She had recently become an enthusiastic rower and described it as “the perfect sport/exercise/meditation”.

A vast debt of gratitude is owed by all who loved Trisha to her brother and sister-in-law, John and Nancy Callahan, with whom Trisha lived during the final months of her life. Their patient, selfless care and devotion made it possible for her to experience many moments of joy and laughter in her final months, and she enthusiastically enjoyed John’s exquisite cooking until the very end.

Good-bye, Trisha. To know you was to love you.

A celebration of Trisha’s life with lots of music is planned for January 29th, 2011. For details please email goodman156@comcast.net. Donations in Trisha’s memory may be made to the Musella Foundation for Brain Tumor Research, 1100 Peninsula Blvd, Hewlett, NY 11557.

Friday, December 10, 2010

A Celebration of Life for Patricia Callahan



A Joyful Musical Celebration of Life
Followed by good food and wine, with Friends and Family


Date: Saturday January 29, 2011

Place: St. John's Presbyterian Church
2727 College Avenue, Berkeley, CA

Time: 4pm


Please...
RSVP with the number in your party to Claire at: goodman156@comcast.net
thank you...

Friday, December 3, 2010

Patricia has flown away

Brother John and sister Mary Ellen, writing together to inform you all that our dear little sister Patricia passed away on December 2, 2010 at 1:05 pm – rather suddenly, but peacefully, and with her typical grace and excellent sense of timing.

Since our last blog entry, Trish had become so ill that she was unable to get out of bed, and was becoming more and more confused. The tumor was surely growing, and her doctors recommended no further treatments –just palliative care to keep her comfortable. We and her doctors were expecting that she might last for several weeks – quite possibly longer due to her young age and excellent health.

We were just gearing up for a long, agonizing trip down the hospice road. The many wonderful hospice and private caregivers, nurses, family members, and all the drugs and accouterments were being assembled to make her comfortable. The hospital bed was being delivered when she peacefully flew away with her family at her side. Typical great timing from Trish – the hospital bed never even got off the truck.

A celebration of her life will take place in late January. We will have a posting here with details soon.

Thank you all for your special visits, and kind, healing thoughts and prayers. Trisha received them all with her warm, open heart and her brief time with this difficult illness was made bearable by your love.

See you all soon,

Love,

-John, Mary Ellen, and all of the Callahan Family.

Monday, November 29, 2010


Hello to all Trisha's fans and friends out there from her sister, Mary --
We've been up-front that I sometimes help Trisha get her blog entry out, and sometimes I've in fact been the out-and-out ghost-writer with her as final editor! Well, here I am out in the open telling you I'm writing this one!
We want to keep you all informed about Trisha, and she just is not up to penning blog entries right now. So here's the latest on our dear Trishie.
She's been back from Hawaii for about 10 days or so, and did really have a good time. Our brother John reports that they all found it very relaxing to just sit and watch the beautiful ocean a lot of the time, since Trisha got more tired in the second half of the trip. But they did get out to the beach and the museum, too...
Now Trisha's back in Oakland and the current medical deal is to have Avastin infusions (new chemotherapy for her), on top of her high-dose steroids. We will see what the Avastin does.
The darn steroids have completely knocked out her leg muscles, so she can't get out of a chair by herself. Please come over and help her up!
Trisha's attitude has amazed us all the whole time, even now -- I can feel it all the way out here in New York where I live! But it's true she's kinda bummed by the weak legs, and also the challenge she has sometimes to finish long sentences. But she's still kind of ok with everything, too, it's amazing....
The whole family thanks all of you reading this for all your thoughts and prayers, cards and letters. They are good and Trisha benefits from them! Keep them coming!
Love, Mary

Monday, November 22, 2010


Dear Friends,


Hello from Trisha. I did have a great time in Hawaii with John and Nancy and my friend Leah Reitz! So nice to get away!


The darn steroids make my legs weak enough that I didn't get to go jogging on the beach every morning at sunrise or climb up Diamond Head on a hike, but they keep my head from exploding, so it's a pretty good trade-off!


I did get a good little bit of gentle walking in, supplemented by riding in the wheelchair, and enjoyed beaches, towns, restaurants and a museum... Also, it was really relaxing and a great change of pace to just sit on the lanai and watch the surfers, windsurfers and sailboats go by on the beautiful water in front of us.


I still have a pretty great attitude about this tumor, (my sister Mary reminds me of this...) and a good deal of acceptance, but lemme tell ya, it's no picnic! All your blog comments, cards, thoughts, prayers, visualizations and stuff are really sweet and they help!


Keep 'em coming!

Love, Trisha

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Hello, friends! Trisha here! Listen, don't panic, I'm still with us! I will admit I'm not so up on answering my phone and emails these days.... The truth is that these mega-steroids I'm on are creating kind of a challenge... They make my legs weak, so it's been a little harder tearing around town on outings and such. It does bum me out, but I've still got a pretty darn positive attitude, I'd say!

My dear brother John and his wife Nancy are giving me a really wonderful cheer-up present! Tomorrow we leave for 8 days in Hawaii! Oh, boy! Fun in the sun! Well, with my big cover-up hat on...
In other news, my platelet count is right where they want it, and I threw off a cold last week in just a few days, which can sometimes be a challenge for people who have been having the treatments I've been having... The picture is from right before the surgery, way back in late July
.

Keep those cards and letters and coming!
Love, Trisha
p.s. if this sounds more like my sister Mary's writing style, ok, I admit, she wrote it! But I approved it!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Hello again!

Hi, all.

Well, I'm STILL done with radiation, just like in the last entry, so no news there, except of course, that I seem to be functioning better every day.

We're just starting some new MRI's and so on, so we (the md's) can decide what to do next. The tumor itself is smaller, and distorting my brain much less (as if it were possible to get me less distorted in general...)

In other news, I'm getting stronger all the time. I can walk all the way down Lakeshore Avenue AND back ALL by mySELF! I do like to have a rest after that, but still.

I had a birthday party at a picnic place in Tilden Park and a good time was had by all. It was really nice to see family and friends, and the outdoor picnic venue was perfect, and the weather made it more and more pleasing, and we all just got to catch up a bit.

Well, I look forward to hearing news from you blog-reading friends, and thanks for checking in! It means a lot to me!


Love, Trisha

Friday, September 24, 2010

Hello from Trisha!



"Hi, Everybody! Trisha here! Just wanted you all to know I'm fine!

Big news! I finished my six-week course of chemo and radiation treatments!!!! (for now at least!). My hair has definitely headed for the hills. Turns out I have a beautiful cranium!
The docs will soon do tests and see how they'd like to proceed with more possible treaments. Also, my steroid dose is down to a more manageable level so I'm feeling a bit more *normal*.

So all in all, I am feeling pretty capable and hardy, and my energy is very good! I even spent the whole weekend at a close friend's house in the South Bay Area! Fun was had by all. Thanks for your thoughts, prayers, and comments. I appreciate every one of them very much! Love, Trisha"
p.s. in case you want to read the fine print on my beautiful certificate, it reads, "Patricia Callahan has completed the prescribed course of Radiation Therapy with a high order of proficiency in the Art of being cheerful, outstanding in high courage, tolerant and determined in all orders given. It is recognized by our staff as an Honorable Achievement, and we would like to congratulate you, on a job well done."

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Still here!

Dear Folks, My sister Mary is typing for me, because I'm too lazy to!
Now, don't think I wear this cute white chapeau all the time these days. This picture is from right after the surgery on July 23rd. Mary wanted to post it because she thinks I look so cute.
Nowadays, I walk around without a turban. Chemotherapy and radiation were just as fun this week as the week before, and finally, yes, my hair has started to fall out, just yesterday!
I often have great energy and sometimes I'm really tired. I just went to the movies tonight with Mary (Cairo Time. -- highly recommended.)
My spirits are great and we all know your healing is in your spirits!
Thank you so much, everybody, for supporting me with your prayers and thoughts and everything else! It's all helping!
Keep those cards and letters coming! It's great to hear from you whenever you want to email me or write or whatever.
Love, Trisha

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Trish Update

Hi all - John here for Trisha!

We are into the second week of radiation and chemo - and Trish is doing a great job of handling it all. But this is an intense time - she goes daily for a radiation session in Berkeley - and she takes a chemo pill everyday, as well. This a drug recipe for disaster, but she keeps it all together with a delicate balance of powerful steroids and anti-nausea meds. She is seeing two different docs every week - and they both want blood samples before each appointment - ouch! But Trish is keeping a cheerful attitude throughout - just amazing. She also has incredible support from her dear, close friends and family who are taking her to and fro - and watching over her.

She is looking forward to the light at the end of this nasty treatment tunnel - which will be in late September - early October. For now - Trisha tires easily, and gets a bit frustrated when her brain cannot handle too many visitors at once. So she is asking all of you to be patient and she'll be in touch with you all about visiting when the time is right.

Meanwhile - she is getting back to e-mail, so please communicate that way if you like - but she may take some time to get back to you.

Love to all,

-John

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Trisha's New Deal




Trish is settling into her "new"schedule of Monday through Friday treatments. Here's what she has to say:


Hi there, my friends! I'm doing better pretty much day by day--lots more moving and thinking and I even steal time from the difficulties of brain tumor by reading historical novels. I've started in on my daily treatments out in Berkeley, and today had lunch out there once for a little adventure. I still nap quite a bit and it can be very overwhelming to see too many people, so I have definitely been keeping myself pretty socially quiet--perhaps in a month (or more? or less?) I'll be able to see more people. Of course I love to hear from you, and of course I wish I had a million hours of time, lots of money and---what the heck: no brain tumor! so I could spend all my time visiting. Well, for now the best hope is lots of time, continued health improvement, and eventual opportunities to be in communication with you all. I'll hand things back to John, now, my inspired web site blogger. Great to talk to you! xoxxoxox Trisha

Please keep replying: we love hearing from you.

We are in good shape for now regarding drivers and caregivers - and we thank the many who have offered. If you have those skills to offer, do let us know - we may well be calling on you. For the many friends who would like to visit, let us know about that, too. We will see about working in some short visits over the next several weeks. With the many treatments, Dr.'s appointments, etc. - Trish can only see a limited number of friends at this point. Please contact me directly about these things at john@callahanpiano.com



Love to all,

-John

Friday, August 6, 2010

From John


Good news - Trisha has been getting steadily better each day. Her spirits are great, her sense of humor is superb, and her new haircut is edgy! She is inspiring all of us, as together we chart the unknown waters of her illness.

Trish will be starting her daily radiation and chemo treatments in Berkeley on Tuesday -a six week run, Monday though Friday, weekends off. We thank the many local friends and family who have volunteered to help with driving - and we will be calling on you!
Today Allison (photographer at right) took her for a haircut, and a romp in the park.

Yesterday, Chloe Ma and her mom, Regina, came by and played some beautiful music - just what the doctor ordered.



And best of all - I have just figured out how to post photos on her blog!




While these images portray a rosy picture - the fact is that Trish is slowly working up to a point where she can have visits from friends, and get out a bit. She "overloads" easily (and suddenly) and the 24 hour cocktail of scary doses of drugs she is on keeps her family and friends (caregivers) on their toes. More soon ...

Love to all,

-John

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Doctor Daze

Trisha had a nice recovery once the great docs at UCSF got her meds stabilized over the past 48 hours.

She felt well enough today to meet briefly with her motley, yet beloved gang of co-workers at the piano workshop www.miracleinabox.com . Then it was on to Berkeley to meet with the team of docs who will be overseeing her ongoing treatment (radiation and chemo) which will begin first thing next week.

After her first day venturing out, she is exhausted - and will take the next few days to build up some strength before starting the radiation and chemo phase of treatment.

For now, she will be staying at John and Nancy's in Oakland - and we will soon be calling upon all of the local friends and relatives to help with the daily, Monday through Friday trips to Berkeley for radiation.

More details about that in a few days.

Love to all,

John and Trisha

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Trisha back home

Sorry - technical difficulties here ... We're back - and so is Trish!

Safe at home at John and Nancy's. Feeling much better--more tomorrow.

John and Trish

Trish at UCSF

Trisha was transferred back over to UCSF last night to be close to her surgical team as they moderate her meds. She is feeling better and her spirits, as always, are great, considering the fact that she feels pretty lousy.

This post brain surgery recovery has its ups and downs - but she is in great hands, and the love and support of all her wonderful extended family and friends means so much to her - we thank you all.

We hope to have her back home today or tomorrow.

-John

Monday, August 2, 2010

Trish landed back in the hospital

Hi all,

Well, Trish was doing so well over the past 10 days, that we were all surprised when her symptoms of head pain and nausea worsened today. Mary Ellen did a valiant job, but Trish was not able to keep the all important medications down - so the docs ordered her back to the hospital so they can get the meds into her through an IV. She is at Alta Bates in Berkeley at the moment, and the decision has not yet been made whether to keep her here, transfer her back to UCSF - or possibly let her come back home.

The good news is that she is finally resting comfortably after a rough day.

-John

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Sunday Night thoughts from Trisha

John writing for Trish - who is worn out from a weekend of good family, good food, and good exercise of both her body and her brain.

Our sister Mary Ellen and her fella, Walter, (both here from their home in Manhattan) stayed with Trish this weekend, along with help from Trisha's nephew, Christoph, and his girlfriend, Ann. Nancy and I were away. Mary and Walter did a great job of cooking healthy organic food for Trish and regulating visits from several family members and friends. Cousin Sally, came this evening with a fabulous lasagna, and dessert was amazing homemade chocolate ice cream from John and Linda Brooks. Trish took a hike up and down our steep stairs afterward.

Tuesday will be a trip back to UCSF to visit the docs and get information about plans for future treatment. Stay tuned ...

-John

Friday, July 30, 2010

Trisha here again!

Hi Everyone!

I'm here at John (my brother's) house, where I'll be staying for a (few more) weeks. John's keeping my hale (and almost hardy) soul a bit on the lively edge of the post brain tumor recipe. Okay, that was a lot to say in English after so many funny things going on in English after what my mom......wait.....

I'm going to have John re-write this, and maybe it'll make better sense.

John here! Trish is doing great, and is practically her old self again - but typing sentences is still a bit of a challenge, as you can see!

Her dear friend Allison Boles is here from Reno taking care of her for a few days, and Trisha's family are all stopping by individually for short visits. Too much stimulation wears her down fast and causes some frustration. We are finding that fewer, shorter visits, and no more that two or three people (including Trish) are best.

-John

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Trisha Here!

Hi My Friends,

I'm doing a bit more each day, and I'm very happy to be connected with you. Please continue to send your messages, because I'm looking at them every day.

All my best, and I'll hear from you tomorrow!!!!!

xoxoxo
Trisha

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Tuesday night - from John

All is well - My dear sister Trish is resting now after another day of outstanding progress. Tiring - but worth it. She is getting stronger by the hour - and this will continue in the coming weeks until she is strong enough for the next phase of her treatment.

This part of her recovery includes some difficulty with finding the exact word she wants - and a bit of short term memory difficulties - but you can be sure our Trish is just fine ... her sense of humor is intact, for sure, and she is sharp as a tack. The other things will pass as she gets better.

The All Star team at UCSF will soon lay out a plan for additional treatment over the next few months - chemo and radiation therapy. We will give details to you all as we learn them.

For now - I want to thank you all for your wonderful words of encouragement, support, and your posts about your interesting lives. I read them to Trish every day - she loves them and we hope she will soon be able to post herself, and reply to each of you.

Tuesday - Trish settling in

Trisha had a very good day with visits from many family, some great food, naps, and walks around the house and the back deck. Still no reading or typing for her until her head stops hurting quite so much (yours would too - after brain surgery)!

Monday, July 26, 2010

Monday - Trisha is Home!

Well, home to John and Nancy's house for now ... Trish was doing so well that the UCSF Docs sent her home with her brother for some R&R. She had wonderful care at the UCSF hospital - but she is very happy to be able to rest in a more peaceful environment. She looks forward to being able to communicate and visit with you all soon - but she needs to concentrate on recovering from brain surgery for now.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Sunday Afternoon Update

Trisha continues to have a very smooth recovery from her surgery last Friday. We hope to have her home early in the week, where she will continue her recovery and prepare for the next phase of her treatment.

Welcome to my new Blog

This Blog has been created to keep Friends and Relations updated on Trisha's recent sudden illness - a brain tumor - which was discovered on July 16, 2010. She had surgery on July 23, 2010, at UCSF, performed by Dr. Mannish K. Aghi

http://neurosurgery.ucsf.edu/index.php/about_us_faculty_aghi.html

Dr. Aghi is pleased with the outcome of the surgery and even more pleased with Trisha's remarkable recovery from the surgery. She should be released within a few days, and Trisha requests that only immediate family visit her at this time.

Trisha will be away from her cell phone and email for a while, and requests that her friends leave messages for her here, on this blog. Soon, Trisha will be making her own progress reports here, on this blog. Meanwhile, her family will post progress reports here.

Please bookmark this page and check for updates.